{"id":19382,"date":"2022-03-30T11:48:27","date_gmt":"2022-03-30T11:48:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/?p=19382"},"modified":"2022-12-22T12:25:49","modified_gmt":"2022-12-22T12:25:49","slug":"imposter-syndrome-the-inner-critic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/imposter-syndrome-the-inner-critic\/","title":{"rendered":"Imposter Syndrome, the Inner Critic, and Managing People Smarter than You with Steve Schlafman"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Were you thrust into a leadership position without a lot of training and preparation? Have you risen rapidly as a leader and find yourself a bit uncertain? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or maybe you\u2019re a founder making things up as you go, and finding yourself managing other incredible people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being a leader who has to learn on the job can be intimidating and scary. Imposter syndrome and its sibling, the inner critic, can leave you struggling to be your best. And all of this is only compounded when you have brilliant people on your team who are smarter or better than you at their job. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image is-style-default\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-300x300.jpeg\" alt=\"Imposter Syndrome and the Inner Critic\" class=\"wp-image-19400\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-300x300.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-1024x1024.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-150x150.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-768x768.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-1536x1536.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/E7886734-163D-4D1A-977C-5161045EB9D1-2048x2048.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s why we have VC turned leadership coach Steve Schlafman on to talk about how you can navigate all of this and thrive as a leader, even when you\u2019re on your own to figure out this leadership thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"embed-container\"><iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https:\/\/share.transistor.fm\/e\/e8684b93\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Listen to our episode on overcoming imposter syndrome and your inner critic:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/show\/46J4CvswW95p3bs6zOu7yY\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Spotify\u200b\u200b<\/a>\u200b<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u200b<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/creating-high-performing-teams\/id1602986064\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u200b\u200b\u200bApple Podcasts\u200b\u200b\u200b<\/a>\u200b<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u200b<a href=\"https:\/\/podcasts.google.com\/feed\/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zb3VuZGVyLmZtLzE4MjEwL3Jzcy54bWw?sa=X&amp;ved=0CAMQ9sEGahgKEwiApZXG4JP1AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQvgI\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bGoogle Podcasts\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b<\/a>\u200b<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u200b<a href=\"https:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/podcast\/adulting-101-2\/creating-high-performing-teams\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200bStitcher\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b<\/a>\u200b<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Show Notes:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>&nbsp;Some helpful links related to the topics we covered:<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/conscious.is\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Conscious Leadership Group<\/a>\u00a0by Diana Chapman and Jim Dethmer\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Unarguables:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/conscious.is\/excercises-guides\/speaking-unarguably\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/conscious.is\/excercises-guides\/speaking-unarguably<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>68% of managers are afraid to communicate with their teams.&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/afraid-at-work-communication-feedback\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Learn what you can do to be like the 32% that aren\u2019t.&nbsp;<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/management-skill\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">How to embrace curiosity as a leader.<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Shirzad Chamine - Inner critic:&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.positiveintelligence.com\/about\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.positiveintelligence.com\/about\/<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Books we discussed:<\/strong>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3zALw08\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener nofollow\">Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg<\/a>\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>OFNR:<\/strong>&nbsp;Observe - Feeling - Need - Request structure outlined here:&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/drlwilson.com\/ARTICLES\/NONVIOLENT_COMMUNICATION.htm\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/drlwilson.com\/ARTICLES\/NONVIOLENT_COMMUNICATION.htm<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Key actions for you to take today from the interview:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Be open and curious rather than closed and defensive:<\/strong>&nbsp;Overcome your imposter syndrome by embracing what you don\u2019t know and look for opportunities to learn from others, even your own team.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Question the stories about yourself:<\/strong>&nbsp;Ask yourself what stories run in your mind and if they\u2019re helpful for you and your goals.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Have self-acceptance and compassion:<\/strong>&nbsp;No one is harder on you than you. Recognize that, and look for opportunities to be less hard on your self, and compassionate when you have work to do.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Make a list of your accomplishments:<\/strong>&nbsp;Build more self confidence and quiet the inner critic when they\u2019re too loud, by listing out what you\u2019ve accomplished to show yourself what you are capable of doing. &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Where to find and follow Steve:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>You can follow Steve&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.twitter.com\/schlaf\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">on Twitter @schlaf&nbsp;<\/a>and learn more about his coaching practice at&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"http:\/\/www.schlaf.co\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><u>www.schlaf.co<\/u><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Were you thrust into a leadership position without a lot of training and preparation? 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