{"id":12830,"date":"2018-04-07T02:40:46","date_gmt":"2018-04-07T09:40:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/?p=12830"},"modified":"2024-07-02T12:04:01","modified_gmt":"2024-07-02T12:04:01","slug":"constructive-discontent-competitive-advantage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/constructive-discontent-competitive-advantage\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Constructive Discontent Is the Ultimate Competitive Advantage"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"That is the worst thing that can happen to a company,\"<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> said Wisse Dekker. \u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He's the former president of Dutch electronics company, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.usa.philips.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Philips.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In 1990, he resigned after the company barely earned $3 million dollars in their first quarter. This was horrendous compared to the $130 million earned\u00a0in the previous year. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dekker confessed that not only were they suffering from a financial crisis, but also a <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/articles.latimes.com\/1990-05-14\/business\/fi-290_1_van-der-klugt\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"crisis of confidence.\"<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Desperate, Philips hired Jan Timmer as new CEO. \u00a0Timmer saw the dire situation and planned to take on the challenge head-on, with a key tactic of constructive discontent. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/download.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent jan timmer\" width=\"549\" height=\"378\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>A plan to turn things around<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timmer gathered the company's top 100 managers and shared with them a harsh truth:\u00a0<\/span><b>bankruptcy was a possibility.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Philips was in last place. Consumers didn't care about their products. And, workers were disengaged. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He knew that if employees failed to change how they communicated, Philips's end was near. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, Timmer created an initiative called <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.sciencedirect.com\/science\/article\/pii\/0024630196000556\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Operation Centurion.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He organized \"town meetings\" where employees of all ranks, products, and departments discussed plans to improve product quality and consumer experiences.\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the meetings, disagreements were encouraged. Every voice was to be heard with equal attention. Senior management could be challenged without punishment. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In the book, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/s\/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_13?url=search-alias%3Daps&amp;field-keywords=Maximum+Leadership%3A+The+World%27s+Leading+CEOs+Share+Their+Five&amp;sprefix=the+sense+of+%2Caps%2C183&amp;crid=VEIBSZVG5HJ2\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Maximum Leadership<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, \u00a0Timmer explained how these discussions shifted the workplace:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"The relationships are different now. If you sit...through sometimes very emotional discussions on very difficult issues, then you get to know each other, <strong>you get to respect each other<\/strong>.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timmer's initiative turned around their low employee engagement and boosted productivity. And it showed on their bottom line: In the mid-1990's, Philips reported $34 billion in sales and $1.1 billion in net earnings. Quite a turnaround from $3 million by his predecessor.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timmer credited these improved relationships among staff for the turnaround: <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"I can tell you whether that factory works or not; I can tell it from the body language of the employees and the way the people react to the foreman and the answers people give to him and the managers, and how unafraid they are. <strong>And I can walk out without looking at the figures, and I can tell you if that factory makes money or not.\"<\/strong><\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Thomas-Edison-Discontent-brings-progress.png\" alt=\"constructive discontent was believed in by thomas edison\" width=\"601\" height=\"331\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h1><b>The Power of Constructive Discontent to Help Your Business Thrive<\/b><\/h1>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The book, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Shaping-Business-Leaders-B-Schools-Response\/dp\/8178298457\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1523058710&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=Shaping+Business+Leaders%3A+What+B-Schools+Don%27t+Do\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shaping Business Leaders<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, defines constructive discontent as the act of staying focused and open while facing disagreements and criticism. Put simply, it's the art of embracing healthy conflict.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Timmer thrived as CEO of Phillips, because he created a culture of <b>constructive discontent.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Contrary to popular belief, disagreement isn't always a bad thing. It's essential to creative problem-solving. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In his book, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2JrpFh9\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Fifth Discipline<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, MIT's Peter Serge argues that the best teams embrace disagreements: <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>\"In great teams, conflict becomes productive<\/strong>. The free flow of conflicting ideas is critical for creative thinking, for discovering new solutions no one individual would have come to on his own.\"<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As humans, we're capable of great things. But, we do have limitations. What you lack in knowledge or skill, can be compensated, and complimented, by your co-worker's perspective. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However,<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">constructive discontent isn't easy.\u00a0 Today, we take a look at how to build it at your company, and the benefits you'll experience if you do.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/get-out-of-your-comfort-zone.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent starts outside your comfort zone\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h2><b>1) Learn to embrace discomfort<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timmer acknowledged that many managers sacrificed their ego to attend town meetings: <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"We really began to get the best out of our people. Managers began to listen to the shop floor, where there is so much knowledge. <\/span><\/i><b><i>It took the managers deflating themselves a little - deflating their importance\u00a0<\/i><\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">- but it had to be done.\"<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But, many executives weren't as open, so\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/1996\/05\/why-do-employees-resist-change\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Timmer fired them.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> By the mid-90's, he had to hire outside managers to fulfill many of their key positions. This left only 4 members of the original senior-management committee. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3><b>\"Get on the bus\u201d<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As Jim Collins, author of <a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2uRd6bs\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">Good to Great<\/a>, writes, one of the first things you have to do as a leader is <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.jimcollins.com\/article_topics\/articles\/first-who.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">get\u00a0your people on board<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for your goals and ideas:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"The executives who ignited the transformations from good to great did not first figure out where to drive the bus and then get people to take it there. <strong>No, they first got the right people on the bus (and the wrong people off the bus).\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a leader trying to embrace <\/span><b>constructive discontent, <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">you're going to get a lot of push-back. Not only from your employees, but from yourself. \u00a0Embrace the challenge, and understand why it happens. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, your brain and workplace environment has trained you and your team members to avoid disagreements.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Fight-or-flight-response.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent can trigger fight or flight responses\" width=\"598\" height=\"734\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>Our brains <em>hate<\/em> conflict<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sweaty palms. Dry lips. Fast heartbeats. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That's how your body reacts when experiencing conflict. \u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Disagreements are part of everyday life. But because they're stressful, your body tends to react as if it's in danger. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your adrenal glands start to <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/you-illuminated\/201104\/under-pressure-your-brain-conflict\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">produce hormones like adrenaline and cortisol.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> This causes your heart to beat faster, breathing to increase, muscles to tighten, and pupils to dilate. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel impulsive and emotional. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is your brain preparing you for <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.youngdiggers.com.au\/fight-or-flight\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">fight or flight mode.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You\u00a0feel the urge to either confront the problem or run away from it as fast as you can. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This response is normal. It's a survival mechanism allowing you to react carefully to dangerous situations.\u00a0 It kept our ancestors alive when facing danger.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unfortunately, your brain isn't trained to differentiate dangers. That's why some people see conflict as a near-death experience, which makes them more likely to avoid it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But there's added social pressure that causes you\u00a0to ignore disagreements, too.\u00a0Most people are afraid of being punished for speaking up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/conflict-avoidance.png\" alt=\"constructive discontent challenges our conflict avoidance instincts\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h2><b>2) Acknowledge that\u00a0most people are\u00a0afraid to speak up <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Besides our brain functions, our workplace environment influences how we handle conflict. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A survey by\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/go.vitalsmarts.com\/Costly-Conversations.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">VitalSmarts<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0showed how passive workers are when dealing with office tension. Among 1,025 employees, 72% were guilty of not speaking up when a peer didn't \"pull their weight,\" or work as hard as others. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Further, almost 68% of respondents failed to address disrespect or hostility, and 57% confessed to letting their peers get away with ignoring important workplace rules and procedures. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For these employees, they felt it was more beneficial to avoid workplace disagreements than discuss them, because their environment doesn't promote open discussions. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They're afraid of the financial or social consequences of challenging the status quo. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Their\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/afraid-at-work-communication-feedback\/\">silence isn't an act of defiance<\/a>,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but rather of self-preservation.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Is your workplace guilty of creating this feeling?<\/p>\n<h3>Even harassment can be hard to confront.<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fast Company writer <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fastcompany.com\/3068610\/the-real-reasons-women-dont-report-sexual-harassment\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ruth Reader<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> explained her thought-process on why she didn't report sexual harassment: <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"In any outcome, <strong>there's always the fear that the person you report will retaliate<\/strong> in some way...Will they spread rumors about you? Will they try and get you fired? Will they threaten you? If other co-workers find out, will they rush to your support or shun you?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then factor in the nagging part of your psyche that says, I can handle this situation without outside help. <strong>This self-preservation mechanism forces you to second guess<\/strong> whether you're even being harassed in the first place under the assumption that if you can handle it, it must not be that bad. <strong>There is actually very little incentive to report unless the harassment is so bad you're unable to do your job<\/strong>, at which point you are more likely to look for another job rather than try to fix your current one.\"<\/span><\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Concerns about reporting issues goes beyond just harassment.\u00a0The desire to preserve\u00a0your job and advance in your career can also motivate silence. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">These conerns fueled the attitudes of y<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.safetyandhealthmagazine.com\/articles\/9318-speaking-up\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">oung construction workers who didn't report workplace injuries<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to their supervisors. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.researchgate.net\/publication\/236053103_Construction_Workers%27_Reasons_for_Not_Reporting_Work-Related_Injuries_An_Exploratory_Study\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Center for Construction Research and Training released a report<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> explaining that workers didn't report due to one of these reasons: <\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Didn't want to be labeled as a \"complainer\" <\/span><\/em><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feared the loss of future or current jobs <\/span><\/em><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couldn't afford time off without pay to see a doctor <\/span><\/em><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Didn't want to lose safety incentives for no lost work time <\/span><\/em><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Would rather handle the injury with home treatment <\/span><\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Like Reder, these men didn't see reporting or discussing negative incidents as beneficial. However, self-managing their injuries have long-term consequences, like possible permanent disability and <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.safetyandhealthmagazine.com\/articles\/construction-workers-experience-higher-rates-of-injury-premature-death-study-2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">premature death.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>The default state of a workplace is to suppress these feelings and concerns. Only if you are a proactive leader that supports and reinforces discussions of constructive discontent can you expect tough issues to see the light of day and be resolved.<\/p>\n<h2><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/calm-surface-chaos-underneath.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent means not looking calm on the surface when things are chaos underneath\" title=\"\"><\/h2>\n<h2><b>3) Recognize how the silence is hurting your business <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Most managers lead what Peter Serge calls in\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2JrpFh9\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">The Fifth Discipline<\/a> \"smooth surface teams\": <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\"In mediocre teams...there is an appearance of no conflict on the surface...<strong>In the 'smooth surface' teams, members believe that they must suppress their conflicting views<\/strong> [to] maintain the team-if each person spoke her or his mind, the team would be torn apart by irreconcilable differences.\" <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This culture of avoidance has negative long-term effects on your business. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">VitalSmarts found that <em>only 1%<\/em> of employees feel \"extremely confident\" about voicing their concerns at critical moments. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In their 2010 study,\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/p.widencdn.net\/kcprs9\/Cost-of-Conflict-Avoidance-Research-Summary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Cost of Conflict Avoidance<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, 95% of employees struggle to speak up about their concerns. This caused projects to suffer and for costs to increase. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Specifically, they found that for\u00a0every important disagreement avoided, $1,500 <em>and a workday<\/em> was lost. And in some cases, it was even worse:\u00a08% reported that avoidance cost their organization over $10,000. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>The pattern continues...<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vitalsmarts.com\/press\/2016\/12\/costly-conversations-why-the-way-employees-communicate-will-make-or-break-your-bottom-line\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">updated 2016 study<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, VitalSmarts reported businesses lost $7,500 in time and resources when not handling disagreements. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, one in five employees reported their failure to speak up cost more than $50,000. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4>When silence turns deadly<\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An example of this failure to speak up costing dearly is Korean Air. In the 1990's, they had <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blogs.wsj.com\/middleseat\/2008\/12\/04\/malcolm-gladwell-on-culture-cockpit-communication-and-plane-crashes\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">more plane crashes than<\/a>\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">almost any other airline in the world. Their failures turned out to occur because co-pilots didn't want to disrespect their captain by correcting them. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Silence\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2003\/05\/is-silence-killing-your-company\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">also has a negative impact on employees.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> When conflict isn't resolved, they tend to complain and gossip about it to others. They spend days worrying about the problem, instead of\u00a0focusing on their work. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>These repressed feelings cause humiliation, anger, and resentment among co-workers.<\/strong> This leads to higher turnover rates, lower workplace morale, and poor <a href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/gallup-employee-engagement-survey-managers\/\">employee engagement<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In his book, <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Jamming-Art-Discipline-Business-Creativity-ebook\/dp\/B000RO9VKY\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1523060318&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=jamming+john+kao\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jamming<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, John Kao believes it's the job of the manager to create an environment that encourages free thinking, risk-free expression, and transforms antagonism into creative energy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u00a0explain to your employees that disagreements and conflicts are learning experiences (instead of causes for punishment),\u00a0your team will\u00a0feel more comfortable discussing them.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, not only are people resistant to conflict, they're also resistant to change.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/resistance.png\" alt=\"creating constructive discontent can be met by resistance\" width=\"599\" height=\"414\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h2><b>4) Be ready to face\u00a0resistance<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Recall that your brain is\u00a0programmed to react as if disagreements are dangerous. They trigger your fight or flight response, making you instantly feel uncomfortable. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because of this,\u00a0your brain is wired to resist change like learning constructive discontent.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3>Learn your X's and C's<\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/charlesstone.com\/how-a-leaders-brain-works-part-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">brain is divided into two parts:<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> X-system (reflexive) and C-system (reflective) <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The X-system is reactionary. It stores your emotions, habits, and beliefs. It processes information quickly, so you can focus more on complex stuff. It's why you don't think too much when driving or brushing your teeth. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The C-system is much slower. It controls your higher learning. It uses significant energy to process new and complex information, so you can understand it. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/xystemreallygood.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent means knowing how the brain works with x and c systems\" width=\"599\" height=\"392\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When\u00a0you're <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.langleygroup.com.au\/neuroscience-of-change-what-makes-change-easier\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">learning something new<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, information is first processed through the C-system, then may be stored in the X-system. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, changing behavior, like being more open to feedback, isn't easy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The C-system\u00a0requires a lot of energy to remind you of things like\u00a0not getting offended during a confrontation. This energy usage can then cause\u00a0you to feel irritable, compounding the challenge.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though you're trying to fix bad habits, your body is telling you that something is wrong. Your fight or flight instincts kick in, because it's different than the habits it relies on from the X-system. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Under pressure, the C-system can't stay focused and you can relapse to your earlier behaviors like being defensive and emotional during an argument. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But even though your brain is resistant, it can be trained to become more accepting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/train-your-brain.jpg\" alt=\"constructive discontent requires you to train your brain\" width=\"501\" height=\"424\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h3><b>Train your brain<\/b><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Remember: your brain is naturally\u00a0wired to make you feel uncomfortable during a disagreement, and resistant when trying to create new habits (even if they're good ones). <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling defensive during a disagreement is normal. However, you shouldn't stay that way. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To override bad behavior, you must <\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.langleygroup.com.au\/neuroscience-of-change-what-makes-change-easier\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">train your brain to accept the new behavior.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You can do this through willpower and habit building. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Positive rituals like, asking for conflicting opinions and being open to criticism, should be embedded into your daily life. Whenever you feel defensive, remember this emotion will pass with time and effort. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can also enlist the help\u00a0of\u00a0your co-workers or friends as a support system whenever you feel scared. Ask them to remind you of your new goals for change, and to help recognize when you make progress. Their\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/ways-effective-praise-motivate-team\/\">praise will help you<\/a> through resistance and fuel you to become more open to criticism. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Through constant effort and exposure, you can train your brain to become accepting of constructive discontent. It will no longer trigger a fight or flight response. Instead, it will become a positive opportunity for growth you'll recognize each time it happens. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Soon, it will become as easy as brushing your teeth.\u00a0 And once you've mastered it, you can support your team members in doing the same.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/experiential-learning.png\" alt=\"constructive discontent includes experiential learning\" width=\"401\" height=\"365\" title=\"\"><\/p>\n<h2><b>5) Develop Resistance with Experiential Learning <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With conscious effort, you\u00a0can learn to embrace constructive discontent. To experience the full benefits, it's then important to regularly practice it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The book <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Applied-Importance-Attitudes-Developing-Intelligence\/dp\/0470032731\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1523060601&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=applied+ei\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Applied EI<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> recommends leaders practice experiential learning if they want to increase their <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/effective-leader-emotional-intelligence\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">emotional intelligence.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Experiential_learning#cite_note-10\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Experiential learning<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, you learn by doing. But\u00a0it's more than hands-on training; you also reflect on your experience. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">With this learning cycle (as pictured above), leaders both listen to advice and put it into practice. <\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong>How Experiential Learning works\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here's an example action plan with tips from Robert Cooper from his book,\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/2uOn4KE\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Executive EQ<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<h4><b>Phase 1: Experience<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you or your employees are in a disagreement, try to listen more than you speak. You want to have a better understanding of the conflicting ideas. When you do speak, talk slowly and calmly...Your goal isn't to diminish thoughts but to invite them in a more stable matter. \u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h4><b>Phase 2: Reflect<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself, \"What happened?\" Replay the disagreement and determine what was the main topic. What were the ideas exchanged with your employees? What was the criticism of your ideas and concerns? What was the mood of the disagreement? Were people open to expressing themselves or were they reserved?<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h4><b>Phase 3: Conceptualize<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You're trying to determine if there was anything you could have learned from the experience. Did employees give you any new ideas and insights that you should follow up on? What are the new perspectives that expose the strengths and weaknesses of your ideas? <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h4><b>Phase 4: Experiment<\/b><\/h4>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ask yourself, \"What can I do better next time?\" Did you feel defensive, nervous, angry? If so, then these are signs that you need to better regulate your emotions. Also, put yourself in your employee's shoes. Determine if you did anything that would have made them feel unwanted or ignored in the discussion. <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You repeat the cycle again whenever there's a disagreement. If you feel uncomfortable, don't beat yourself up over it. The pain and emotions you feel are normal. They're all parts of the process toward getting better and helping your employees feel heard as they embrace constructive discontent with you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><b>Conclusion<\/b><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The\u00a0fear of conflict is natural. Your brain is wired to be upset by discomfort.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, many workplaces take conflict avoidance too far. They try to silence employees who challenge traditional ideas or speak up about misconduct.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That's why constructive discontent can be such a competitive advantage for you.\u00a0Few businesses practice it, but the gains can be immense. It takes a lot of <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/mental-toughness-leaders\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mental toughness<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to transform disagreements into positive creative energy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can become a master of constructive discontent when you train your brain to become accepting of opposing views and ideas, and then teach your team members to do the same.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Resistance to change is normal, but through ongoing\u00a0effort and commitment to learning, it can become a habit your whole company embraces.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Would you rather be like Jan Timmer and experience great growth and new energy in your company, or his predecessor, crushed by fear?<\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large Banner-5-busy-managers\" id=\"Banner-5-busy-managers\"><a href=\"https:\/\/m.getlighthouse.com\/solo-study\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"379\" src=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers-1024x379.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-25012\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers-1024x379.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers-300x111.jpg 300w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers-768x285.jpg 768w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers-1536x569.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/getlighthouse.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/Banner_5_busy_managers.jpg 2000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/a><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Making your company succeed is a never ending set of challenges. 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